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Withstand Any Wind
            Can you Imagine a world without wind? I know for myself wind is not
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Our First Blog Post
Marsha Tennyson here, I am the Founder and Director of Chrysalis. This will be my first blog, which is basically
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Withstand Any Wind

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can you Imagine a world without wind? I know for myself wind is not one of my favorite things. It blows hairstyle out, umbrellas down, and causes chaos at a picnic, just to name a few discomforts of the unseen force.  But wind is an important element in our world. Would you expect trees to fall over with no wind? That is exactly what happened in a three-acre glass dome in the Arizona desert. Trees growing in a huge windless bubble called a biosphere grew faster than normal until they suddenly started collapsing under their own weight. The project researchers finally came up with the explanation. The tress needed wind stress to grow strong.

I remember in Sunday school singing a song about wind. The song was about building your house on the sand versus building it on a rock. When the winds came and the waves hit the house on the sand collapsed, but the one built on the rock stood firm because there was a solid foundation. Which in Sunday school of course points to that foundation being Jesus. Without a strong foundation or roots when the stresses of life come, we collapse.

Most of the women who are part of our Chrysalis programs have grown-up in an environment where they were unable to grow strong roots to take them through the hard times. They’ve had very negative and unproductive experiences. The words they heard were, “you are worthless” “you can’t do anything right ” or “I don’t have time for you”. Some were left night after night to take care of the younger children and themselves because the adults were not present. Sitting alone, needing to feel important and loved. No instruction, no role model, no hope. Some or our women received their first drink of first drug experience from a family member, sometimes it was mom or dad. Some were physically, or sexually abused.  Regardless of the experience they didn’t have the tools needed to survive the burdens and pressures of life.

Strong roots don’t come easy. The pain and loss of our past are part of that intricate root system. When we forgive those who have wronged us, and most of all are able to forgive ourselves, we rise above our circumstances and learn how to use our past to live a better future.  We can be sure; the storms of life will come. I love the expression, if someone gives you lemons you can always make lemonade. Knowing the recipe is what is needed.

Every single one of the women that come to Chrysalis are searching for one thing. They want to live a life that they can be proud of, and they have no idea how or if that can be achieved. So we have created programs and an accepting environment to instill value and hope in them. I believe we have to see ourselves as “worth it” or we will just continue to harm ourselves and allow others to do the same. This is a very important root that needs to be very strong and must go deep. There is also the need to belong. One of the women shared with me recently that she loves being at Chrysalis. I asked why and she said, “I had no idea that I was going to gain so much. The women and staff did not have to love and care about me, I was not planning on loving anyone, but for the first time I know what true love looks and feels like.  I opened up and received love and was able to give mine. I was not planning on having amazing relationships with women. I have gained self-confidence, joy, hope and strength. Because of this I am able to trust. I am also learning to have a relationship with God. But this program is about community and bonding with each other. The support I have from the other residents is what is helping me to fight my addiction. This bonding gives me a great feeling of belonging and I have gained more than I ever imagined. “

There are so many roots to a firm foundation. To grow strong, we know we need love, purpose, forgiveness, self- acceptance and hope etc. This is our mission and vision at Chrysalis. To empower women toward positive life change. To instill these wonderful qualities in them so that in the future when the wind and waves of life hit, they won’t turn to destructive means to get through them. They will have a force inside of them that can meet any challenge, ride over any wave, withstand any force. They will know who they are and whose they are, children of a mighty God who has an incredible future for them. by Marsha Tennyson

Our First Blog Post

Marsha Tennyson here, I am the Founder and Director of Chrysalis. This will be my first blog, which is basically about, this being my first blog. If you are reading this, our long awaited new webpage is online where you will be able to view information about upcoming events, monthly stories about our residents and of course, read my blog. I am thrilled to be able to have a forum in which to share our lives at Chrysalis.

I am going to share about Chrysalis and who I am at a church in Boise this month, so I will give you a sneak peek. Almost 30 years ago God called me to work with women that are coming out of incarceration and addiction. It was not my idea, it was God’s. My father had been in ministry on Skid Row for 25 years and was the Executive Director of the old Los Angeles Mission. (I say old because when I arrived in Skid Row the mission was in an old warehouse infested with rats and other unsavory living things.) In the nine years I worked there, the Los Angeles Mission built a 27 million dollar facility. There were mainly men on the streets up until this time, mostly men whose lives were racked with an addiction to alcohol. But gradually young women started peppering the streets, who were addicted to crack cocaine. There was no place where they could receive assistance in their very dark world. I often heard my dad talking about the need for a mission for these amazing women and God started to work on my heart. I would go to bed and wake in the morning thinking, maybe I would be the one who would go to Los Angeles to start a program for women.

I did not feel qualified or called. My husband, not knowing the battle that was going on inside of me, had been talking to my father. He was going to accept a position at the mission to help in the computer department. I was not excited about this. I felt the timing was all wrong and again did not feel called. But we went. Knowing the need I began to volunteer in a shelter/program for women in Los Angeles. I applied and they hired me. I thought, if I am going to work with disadvantaged women I better learn something about it. After about three weeks I knew. To this day, I remember where I was sitting and how I felt. I knew this is what God created me to do, to provide an opportunity for change to women that were devastated by life. I have been doing just that ever since.

Still not feeling qualified, but definitely called, we opened a Day Services in the old mission. Women would stand in line at the front of the mission on Los Angles Street. They would then file in and sit on the old wooden pews in the chapel. We would read them the rules and give them a number. They waited to be called and then came into our newly made clothing room and shower area at the back of the chapel. After taking off their old soiled clothing, (we threw it away), they would take a warm shower and be given lots of great smelling stuff, clean clothes and whatever bobble or trinket had been donated for them to browse through.

This was my introduction to working with women that had lost everything. I was able to give them something very important that they had not experienced for a long time, and sometimes never before, respect. I remember the first time a woman came up to me and said, “Thank you for what you do for us. I have not been treated with respect for a very long time.” I was qualified for that. I soon learned God would never ask me to do anything he would not give me the ability to do. So after all these years I still know within myself I am not able to touch the heart of a woman, no one is truly qualified to do that, but God can. I am a vessel God uses to give big hugs, provide homes where there is safety, accountability and support. To give hope, until they have hope of their own. I have trusted God to give me the words, love and tenacity to do his work; to serve His amazing creation.

The women lived in boxes on the streets. They called them cardboard condos. They were dirty, addicted, and had lost all hope. But God always sees, always loves and never forgets. I soon realized working with these women, it was much like looking for buried treasure. Each one was given gifts and talents that were buried deep inside. I have spent the last 30 years trying to help women dig them up.

This blog will tell you more about my mission and the mission of Chrysalis and those involved every day; volunteers, donors, and our incredible residents that are fighting for a new life, healing and an expectation for a better future. I hope you will join me on this journey and remember to pray for me, our staff, and the women on our 18 month program. Please email any questions to marsha@chrysalisidaho.org.